Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Chloe's Day - October 8, 2015 - 6 years later

October 8, 2015

This week started with a flood of emotion in anticipation of today.  It’s funny how your body/brain remembers or senses such life changing events.  I woke up Monday morning missing Chloe terribly and felt sad and flashed through so many memories, good and bad, of her being healthy and sick.  After some time, I took a breath and pushed through as Reth and I talked about what to share with all of you and realized how well she has been doing this past year. 

Chloe has grown so tall and long recently.  It’s amazing to see her stretched out on her bed with her long legs.  Those who cared for her at the time of her illness will remember how chunky she was, but now she is long and lean.  She had lost a lot of weight earlier last year during these growth spurts but we are happy to say that she is back on track and gaining weight well.  Chloe has also been doing well with wearing her cute glasses (for her Strabismus) that make her look so sophisticated and smart.  Reth and I fought the idea of glasses for so long because we thought they would bother her but she enjoys wearing them and is SO much more aware of the people and objects around her.  Every therapist, nurse, and doctor is so happy with her attentiveness.  Chloe is also wearing her Cochlear Implant more and more!!  Therapists have worked so hard to place the implant and find different ways to make the magnet stick.  With some helpful braiding of her hair, the staff has learned to place it properly and Chloe has been more welcoming to the idea of someone touching her face and head to place these helpful tools.

Chloe continues to attend school at St. Mary’s.  Her teacher, Lori, is one of her best advocates!! We are so lucky to have her.  She is kind and genuinely cares for Chloe.  She has called on so many occasions to tell us about certain seizures and has fought Chloe’s staff to make them aware of the growing issue of her seizures and we are so thankful.  Reth and I have only witnessed a few of these bigger seizures and they are scary for us and for Chloe!  Lori had brought them to my attention initially so when I first saw one occur, I knew exactly what she had reported.  Chloe’s seizures are a difficult thing to report and observe as they can sometimes be so short and quick, or they can look like she is staring off, or they can be big, clumsy and scary.  Her teacher is with her most of the day and has really learned to watch for them.  Along with Chloe’s nursing staff who spend time with her in her room, we have been able to put together a picture of what issues need to be addressed. 

The biggest change this past 6 months has been placing Chloe back on the Ketogenic Diet to help with her seizure activity.  As bigger seizures began to emerge, we have been pushing to find other solutions to help her brain heal.  Unfortunately, we have exhausted most approved medications and need to find a solution that can be more long term.  We had tried the Ketogenic Diet once before without much success but Chloe was home at the time and I did not have a reliable nutritionist or nurse to help.  Both St. Mary’s and Cornell have excellent nutritionists that work very closely with each other and our neurology team.  So far, Chloe has tolerated the diet well and has shown some improvement.  She is more alert and aware since changing her formula and we have not heard as many reports of bigger seizures.  She continues to enjoy water therapy and exercising in the pool and has had several positive sessions with her PT 'walking' and bearing weight on her feet.  OT and Speech also report that she is more engaged and alert as she maintains stronger head control and is more cooperative during the activities.  Her whole team has worked hard and is very happy with the success thus far.

All in all, it has been a good year moving forward with Chloe.  We still juggle and struggle to find balance but we are finding peace everyday.  Reth and I are so happy to have her closer as it allows us more time to be together as a family.  Olivia and Jackson are so happy to be able to spend more time with Chloe and have also gotten to know more of her friend’s on the unit.  Olivia enjoys taking Chloe for walks around her floor unit by herself and whispering all her secrets to her sweet sister.  Chloe still looks at her in awe, just as she did when she was a baby.  Often times, Olivia will spend time laying her head next to Chloe and brushing her cheek or tickling her neck.  Jackson loves to kiss Chloe and still loves to poke her to get her to growl.  It is quite endearing!  He is very much aware that she is his older sister and asks to visit her more and more and has started to express how much he misses her when he does not see her. 


We are so thankful for all of you who keep up with us on this journey.  Thank you for your many kind thoughts and prayers. 

Much love,
Rethier, Michelle, Olivia, Chloe, and Jackson

Friday, February 13, 2015

Happy 6th Birthday Chloe!

 Chloe turns 6!

She’s grown so big this past year and has gone through so many changes and continues to amaze us.  Now that Chloe is closer to home, we have been able to visit her more often and not have the burden of travel or making overnight arrangements.  It has been a treat for us to be able to take a quick drive to kiss her goodnight or say a quick hello.  Olivia and Jackson have been able to have playdates with friends and family with Chloe and it has been a joy to watch the three of them together.  Jackson’s favorite thing recently has been trying to push Chloe’s wheelchair around the unit and taking her for a little walk.  Olivia is happy to hold Chloe’s hand and play with her (still) chubby cheeks.   

Though she is closer to our home, it is still difficult for us to be away from her.  Time has healed many pieces of our heartbreak but there are still moments that just simply take our breath away and we just miss our baby girl.  Starting the school year was difficult.  I so wanted my girls to have this opportunity to share a first day of school together and have them roaming through the same school halls.  And every time we drive through Chloe’s neighborhood, even just to run errands, I’m saddened a bit by Jackson calling out ‘Coco, see you soon. Love you.’ He calls to her very sweetly and it breaks my heart.  I am thankful for the love and bond that I am able to witness between the three of them.  The three are truly amazing with each other.  I only wish it could be the way we imagined – without sickness, without complication.

We love you Chloe.  Daddy and I miss you very much, especially today.  You are as beautiful and sweet as the day you were born.  We think of you so often.  When I close my eyes and think of you I remember a sunny, summer morning we played outside on grandma and grandpa’s back porch.  Daddy held you as we all played under the apple tree and you smiled so big and laughed so hard.  My wish for you today is that you remember that moment and hold onto it forever.  We’re there with you!

Happy Birthday baby girl!

Much love...